I was shocked when Bob Jones, Sr. bragged in chapel that the university had destroyed the records of several graduates so they could not prove they had attended BJU; and shocked again when I realized that my class had been coached for the Graduate Record Exams by using actual questions from the exams. I was young, but it surely smelled like cheating to me!
I had realized I was lesbian very early on, and had tried suicide at a “Christian” high school before attending BJU; but my orientation never came up during college because I lived celibate.
I taught at fundamentalist colleges for fourteen years, married Frederick Mollenkott and had a son (in the vain hope of being “cured”) but signed up to teach at William Paterson College (now University) when I realized it was time to come out and a divorce was in the offing.
Coming out was relatively easy for me because my choice was clear: either say one thing and do another, like the many hypocrites I had met, or else live an authentic and honest life. Anyone interested can learn a lot more about all that by checking out my website, www.virginiamollenkott.com.
Some years ago, a person who had read my books wrote to BJU to ask whether I had actually graduated from there. The answer, on the college letterhead, signed by Bobby III, said that yes, I am a BJU graduate, but in their opinion I am “a demon” and they are praying that God will “destroy” me. So it should come as no surprise that I strongly resonate with Jeffrey Hoffman’s emphasis that we need to work at getting the Religious Right to tone down its rhetoric concerning LGBT people.
I am now a happy 80 year old grandmother of three, with a loving partner, and would be glad to answer any questions or discuss concerns with anyone who contacts me through my website.
Virginia Ramey Mollenkott